Maintaining good relationships
Healthy relationships are the cornerstone of a happy, supported and balanced life. We all need a buffer from time to time, and keeping our relationships with others healthy is important.
- Try to cool off first if you feel too angry to talk calmly
- Stick to the topic at hand and remember that the goal is to solve the conflict, not win the argument. Don’t bring up other unrelated issues.
- Communicate your side of the story clearly and honestly, and be prepared to listen actively to the other person’s point of view.
- Be willing to compromise and once the solution is decided on, stick to it.
- Speak face to face, rather than relying on phone calls, emails or text messages. Facial expressions and body language help to get the right message across.
- Pick an appropriate time to have a discussion. Make sure you are both focused on the issue and not distracted.
- Actively listen to what the other person has to say and acknowledge what you have heard. This lets them know that you are really listening.
Balancing work and family
- Talk to your employer about family-friendly policies. It may be possible to work flexible hours, or to reduce hours to fit around family responsibilities.
- After work, have some transition time to help you wind down from your day at work and prepare for spending time with family. This might include listening to some music, going for a short walk or riding your bike home from work.
- If you have children, try to regularly spend some special time with them, doing something that they enjoy.
- Eat dinner together regularly, without the interruption of phone calls and television. You might like to share ‘the best thing that happened to me today’ to help get the conversation going.
- Create a spending diary to help you track where the money goes. Write down everything you buy over the course of the week and then review in your diary to see where most of your money has been spent.
- Use the information from your spending diary to help create an accurate budget. There are many budgeting tools available online, or you can just use a pen and paper.
- Review your budget regularly as your income and spending habits change.
- If you are in a relationship, make sure that both partners are involved in creating and maintaining a budget.
- If you have credit cards, a home or personal loan, paying more than the minimum repayments each fortnight or month can save you a significant amount of money in interest and help you pay the debt off sooner.
If you’re talking to a mate who’s having some issues, but you’re not sure how you can help
don’t hesitate to contact OzHelp on their behalf. We can arrange a field visit to meet your mate onsite.